It often is the situation that you have a friend, whom you consider very close to you, whom you trust completely, but with whom you are not committed. If the world asks you about your relationship with this person, you may not be able to put it in words, because that person is more than a friend but not really at the girlfriend or boyfriend stage.
I have seen this situation so many times. Two people talk to each other, spend most of the awaking time with each other, they even know that there is something more than just friendship between them, yet neither of them are ready to say the words and commit to their relationship.
So I’ll tell you a story of two people whom I would prefer not to name, and which falls in this category of Half girlfriend / Half boyfriend. They had been friends for ages and the world around them thought of them as a couple all the time. The guy was indifferent to the world’s teasing and jabs. The girl used to get frustrated over the people ruining the two of their relationship. She tried to fight with the world, trying to explain how they were friends and didn’t want others to misinterpret their relationship. Secretly even I believe that they knew they meant more to each other than they tried to portray. The girl was unsure of the whole commitment and knew she trusted the guy more than anyone else and trusted him to be there for her no matter what. The guy was ready to anything for the girl and even go against the world if he had to. Eventually the girl got over her insecurities and didn’t mind committing her relationship and I think that strengthened their bond too. So may be if taken in the right direction relationships that are more than friendship but less than a committed relationship can still work and bloom out in a great committed relationship. On the other hand it can also end peacefully without any burdens of broken promises and stuff because the relationship just did not work out.
Yes, if taken a lot of time to get over your inhibitions this can scar your friendships too if one of the two want some thing more out of the relationship. This is actually a complicated situation which is growing in more and more individuals’ lives, in my opinion.
Half Girlfriend is a movie that expresses this type of a relationship.
This is a post where I am sharing a Half relationship story at BlogAdda in association with #HalfGirlfriend
Woot… it’s been 2 months since my last post! I have been neglecting Dramatic Soul a lot 🙁 Well, I had many many things to write about but by the time I sat down to right about it I felt like the moment had past long back and it was too late to write about it!
So, about this post: I went to this place called Petsitters situated about 5-10 km away from my office in Pune, with my family on last Saturday. It’s basically a place which provides lodging for dogs, has a few rescued dogs, provide activities for dogs and their owners, and also have puppies up for adoptions at times.I had found about them a few years back through a few school friends and I have been wanting to visit there ever since then. Last month, after my sister’s college exams got over, she contacted the owner of Petsitters and asked if we could come over and see the place and interact with the dogs there. The owner was more than happy to have us over as volunteers, and allowing us to play with and interact with some of her dogs and those of her clients’. So we planned a trip on last weekend.
My parents don’t allow us sisters to keep any pets of any kinds and sizes in the house. My father has the opinion that we won’t be able to bear the loss of the pet and this he says from his own experience of having a pet dog and my mother simply refuses because she will have to take care of the pet completely since she is always at home and my sister and I would leave all responsibility on her when we go out for work or college. But they allow us to make as many stray animal friends as we want and were more than happy to let us volunteer at a place like Petsitters.
When we first arrived there, Shalaka, the owner, asked if we were scared of anything like dogs biting, jumping on you, licking you, etc. which we totally weren’t, except my mom and she decided not to enter the play area and just watch from outside. After saying so, Shalaka let out a gang of 6-7 dogs, most of them from the rescued lot and only a couple of client dogs. When she let them out they all rushed to greet us by jumping on us, 2-3 of them at a time, running around in a frenzied manner. I tired to greet them sitting down on on knee and calling them to me, which was sort of a mistake cause they just dashed into me, with me losing my balance as the dogs tried to lick my face all at once. One of the dogs, Poppy, was the most excited golden retriever I have met in my life. She just wouldn’t stay put! If you sat some where on the blocks around the fence she would run from under your knees with extreme enthusiasm.
Our dad had also entered the play area with us, and my default, my dad usually have all dogs fawning over him even if he did absolutely nothing and there guys were no exception when they fell for his canine magic and gather all around him just to get a pat on their heads!
After playing with the dogs for over an hour or so, we were given the task of grooming a few of the client dogs. They had about 20-25 dogs currently there for lodging and we got to brush about 5 of them… the friendlier ones and those who weren’t afraid of new people.
Our first canine to be groomed was a male golden retriever called Pegasus. Before we entered his kennel he was sit calmly without any great interest of what happened outside his kennel, but once we entered, he was so overjoyed that he came again and again to meet me and my sister by climbing and jumping on us. He had the softest coat ever and was so super friendly and obedient as we tried to brush him down. If I could ever adopt a dog, I would surely get some one like Pegasus.
After Pegasus, we got to groom a few more dogs, a brown Labrador called Yuko, and a few other dogs whose breeds and names I forgot. There were all kinds of dogs in the hostels like Rottweilers, German Shepherds, even Shih Tzus! We would have loved to play with them all but may be next time 😀
Me with the canines!
Pegasus is supposed to be groomed but is being petted instead
Poppya again playing with my sister
This one loved being groomed!
Since there was some time before an activity arranged for the dogs began, we were allowed to spend some time in the kennel of any one dog of our choice from the ones we met. We immediately chose Pegasus who was again jumping with the same excitement after we entered his cage! 😀
We were called after some time for the swimming activity for which some client dogs were also brought in by their owners for an explicit swimming lesson. Bonnie, a lodging dog and Pegasus’s kennel mate was brought out for a swim because she needed it to built her hind leg muscles as she suffered from hip dysplasia. Man, she loved swimming! This dog did not want to move out of the water once she jumped in and swam really beautifully. She also loved to come out of the pool from time to time and spray water on her audience. There were a few Beagles who were brought in for a first time swim and it was fun to watch how the trainers put them in the water with a lease tied to train them to swim. We got to meet and talk to the owners too and all were so extremely proud and happy of their dear canines!
Between all this, Shalaka asked us if we would like to meet some bigger dogs and we readily agreed. That day it was an open day for the dogs were dogs came over with their owners to socialize. Since the inside area near the pool had some really small dogs, a bull mastiff was playing on the outside ground areas with his owner, alone. So we went out to meet him. That dog was huge. He first sniffed us cautiously and after believing that we were not a threat to him he allowed us to pat him, but after few pats he wants to show his appreciation back by climbing on us like the other dogs had. But in Mickey the Bull Mastiff’s case, he weighed about 65 kg and was really heavy to try to do this on us so this owner had to pull him back! 😀 The owner also told us that Mickey was a shy type of a dog who didn’t allow strangers to easily touch him, but he must have realized that we really love dogs and meant him no harm to allow us to pet him! (this was so awesome to get the doggie approval)!
We went back to the pool area where Bonnie was still swimming to her heart’s content. Finally she was pulled out and Shalaka asked us to dry her off since it would be a great cardio exercise for us too! 😀 I have never ever drier a dog and it is really a fun experience to ask a dog to sit down while you rub his body with a huge towel. Bonnie was a sweetie and did not trouble us at all as we rubbed her dry.
We played with the other dogs for some more time and then finally took our leave promising to return and help again, anytime we can!
This was one unforgettable experience for us, that’s for sure!
I think I have mentioned this before about how I am living in a flat with roommates now since I have moved to Pune for my internship.
Let me tell you this… if you don’t get the right roommates your life can become hell because of these people.
I never wanted to share my room with anyone. Flat sharing is cool in a two bedroom flat. But 4 people living in 2 rooms was never something that I wanted to do. But as fate had it, I got a room with 3 girls staying and a vacancy for one. The girls seemed good and my father liked the place so well, I decided to go with it.
The girl I shared my room with was also great, but she left the house in about 5 days of me shifting in.
I don’t know where my brain had gone at that time and though there was a chance on me taking the whole room for myself, I didn’t do anything.
In January, I got a roommate.
This girl was exactly opposite to all that I am. She sleeps at 9 pm (fine by me, since I get more solo time with quietness in my room.), cooks are own food, is way older than me and thinks she is extremely smart cuz she earns the most among all the girls in the house. Everything okay with me because who is she to me? What do I care about since I am not going stay here after my internship ends. I was happy in ignoring her as long as I can.
But today she comes up to me when I am taking a bath and bangs on my door cuz she wants to put her own bucket of water to heat on the electric rod. How is some one who is taking a bath supposed to give her a bucket? On top of that, every morning I am the one who puts her bucket to heat myself. Is this my responsibility? I don’t think so since she doesn’t even wake up when I do. I am the first one to get up everyday. On top of that, when I came out she starts shouting on me that I disturb her sleep by staying up and working or reading or by talking on the phone. I will never apologize to some one by reading. Talking on the phone when the other person is awake and when I am paying for the room too I don’t think I am supposed to act only to please the others. Telling me to adjust can go two ways.
With all this ranting I would like to conclude saying, living with strangers is a real pain if you don’t get the type who understand you. It is difficult to please them all.
What are your experiences?
By Nicola Yoon.
Natasha: I’m a girl who believes in science and facts. Not fate. Not destiny. Or dreams that will never come true. I’m definitely not the kind of girl who meets a cute boy on a crowded New York City street and falls in love with him. Not when my family is twelve hours away from being deported to Jamaica. Falling in love with him won’t be my story.
Daniel: I’ve always been the good son, the good student, living up to my parents’ high expectations. Never the poet. Or the dreamer. But when I see her, I forget about all that. Something about Natasha makes me think that fate has something much more extraordinary in store—for both of us.
The Universe: Every moment in our lives has brought us to this single moment. A million futures lie before us. Which one will come true?
This book amazed me.
I loved Nicola Yoon’s Everything Evrything but I loved The Sun is Also A Star more.
A simple story about two different types of immigrants in US.
The book brings out the harsh reality of not just how the undocumented immigrants face problems there but also about how decisions of one person can have unimaginable effects on people around them.
I loved the cynical, science loving, non-believer in love character of Natasha and how Daniel strives in the entire book to make her a believer.
I just had one problem. I couldn’t believe the whole book happens in a single day! They do too many things to logically think it would fit in the said timeline!
Detailed Review soon…. for now -> DO GIVE IT A TRY!
Ah, 2016 flew past I feel. Constant work and something or the other exciting happening, 2016 was a fun year for me!
I would like to review all the good and somewhat bad stuff that happened this year, but it might be a long long post!
So how 2016 fared?
- It started with me participating in IT Olympiad 2016 competition and reaching up to the finals and eventually becoming the runner up and winning a cash prize of Rs. 75000/-.
- The start of 2016 also made me an aunt for the first time (yay).
- I applied for JP Morgan’s Code for Good contest somewhere in March and in mid – May I cracked the telephone interview for the contest.
- I spend my 23rd birthday on 23rd July and the day following it in JP Morgan’s office for this contest and we developed an Android app for a NGO too.
- Two weeks later I got a call for interview and on Aug 10, 2016 I got selected for the full-time Technology Analyst Program at JP Morgan. I was the first one in my class to be placed!
- The same day when I got selected for JPMC I also gave the aptitude test for the 6 months internship program at Dell EMC and on the next day, despite my initial reluctance about working for a company outside Mumbai, I got selected post the aptitude for the interview rounds.
- After a rigorous 5 interviews, they selected me as their only college student intern, not only from my college, but as I recently got to know, from the whole city of Mumbai. I dunno if I am really that smart as this looks 😛
- In the mean time, my sister also scored 97% in her SSC board exams and got into the college of her choice, which was a proud moment for the family.
- We even celebrated her achievement by finally visiting Barbeque Nation, one of the costly BBQ joints we have in the city.
AT Barbeque Nation with family
- I was a part of the placement committee so it was fun to interact with companies and even though there were many terrible moments in the process the result always made us smile over the efforts we put. About 48 out of 50 students from my class managed to get a good internship placement.
- The 4th semester of college which ended in April was one of the toughest ones ever for me and the vacation after it was the last ever vacation I had in a relaxed way. I regret not sleeping enough at that point when I had the chance.
- The 5th semester however flew by so fast that I think before we knew it, it was already over. With placement activities along with the course work there hardly was any time to relax and when it did end, it felt me feeling a bit empty knowing that college life had ended!
Class of MCA (2014 – 2017)
- Time after Diwali was the most hurried one cuz we had our finals, after which i started packing for shifting to Pune. Since my internship started on 19th of Dec, I had about 15 days from when the internship ended to the time to move.
- Shifting was one of the biggest highlight of the year and it happened right towards the end. Finding a new place, moving in with unknown people, managing your office life and getting along with roommates was all new for me. I am a very reclusive person at home, I don’t talk much, remain in my room and prefer being left alone. Now I have to share my room with someone, cook my own food (I have found a tiffin service for it right now :P), wash my clothes (or bring them to Mumbai every weekend so that I can wash it in the washing machine), and most importantly, wake up on my own.
- Office life wasn’t a very daunting experience because I joined the office on 19th, after shifting to Pune on 18th (yeah, just a day prior), and after get inducted and finishing with the initial introductions, I was immediately told that my whole business unit was going on a day picnic to a place called Della Adventure Park in Lonavala in just two days. That proved to be the biggest ice breaker. I got properly introduced to everyone, mingled with them, did crazy stuff like Zip Line and Paintball, etc with them, even sang songs on the bus (which I am extremely conscious about).
Della Adventure Park
- I participated and won my two favourite events from my college’s fest Technovanza, which were called Technohunt and Code Swap, both in first place!
- I did not complete my GoodReads challenge this year 🙁 Though I read some amazing books I managed to read just 45 books out of 52 🙁
What are my near future plans for 2017?
- Perfect my web development skills because I am a front end developer intern!
- Read 50 books this year.
- Choose wisely between my two placement companies and two beloved cities.
- Buy a bike.
- Buy a new phone on my own.
- Save at least Rs. 50000.
- Lose at least 5 kg over the year and start hitting the gym as frequently as possible.
How was you 2016 and what do you see yourself doing in 2017?
So, today (since it’s already past 12 here), in about 8 hours, I’ll be leaving for Pune, where I’ll be staying for the next 6 months for my internship.
I have such mixed feeling tonight. I just finished messaging my friends from college a goodbye and then sat back to think what this actually meant. It’s been roughly 2 and a half years since I got the notification of being accepted into VJTI for MCA at 1:30 am after waiting for the results all day. Though going into this college and for this course meant getting a decent job, I still don’t believe that tomorrow I will actually be starting with my first official job.
These two and a half years have changed me a lot. I have become more confident about decision making, done a lot of different activities that helped learning how the industry works so I hope actually working in a company won’t be a huge challenge and I wish to enjoy it as much as I can. My friends have also changed me, and still keep guiding me, showing me where I’m going wrong and are always there for me.
I’m the first person from my class to starts with the internship on 19th Dec and the first one shifting for it too so it’s sorta a big deal. What is a bigger deal for me is how soon time files. I barely got a 15 days vacation and most of the time went in shopping and getting all the stuff needed to move together. I’m still not completely done with the packing and it seems like an endless cycle and I’m pretty sure despite it all I’m going to forget something here. Luckily enough, Mumbai is about 3 hours away from Pune. So I am planning on returning here on weekends if possible.
I’m still pretty sad to leave my family and go to another place. Though I like cooking I’m not much of a quick cook who can make her meals in minutes. I am very lazy in that matter and I depend a lot on my mom for my food. Now I’ll have to cook for myself. I have to wash my clothes without a washing machine… again a first! And I don;t even know my roommates so well as of now. I’m not used to even sharing my room with anyone and I’m quite a loner person at home. I prefer to be left alone, with my books, PC and work, with no one to badger around me. So it all looks like one big adventure right now.
All in all, I hope this shifting helps me in growing a lot more as a person, to enjoy my work life and help me in becoming independent. Stay tuned for my Pune stories now. 😀