It often is the situation that you have a friend, whom you consider very close to you, whom you trust completely, but with whom you are not committed. If the world asks you about your relationship with this person, you may not be able to put it in words, because that person is more than a friend but not really at the girlfriend or boyfriend stage.
I have seen this situation so many times. Two people talk to each other, spend most of the awaking time with each other, they even know that there is something more than just friendship between them, yet neither of them are ready to say the words and commit to their relationship.
So I’ll tell you a story of two people whom I would prefer not to name, and which falls in this category of Half girlfriend / Half boyfriend. They had been friends for ages and the world around them thought of them as a couple all the time. The guy was indifferent to the world’s teasing and jabs. The girl used to get frustrated over the people ruining the two of their relationship. She tried to fight with the world, trying to explain how they were friends and didn’t want others to misinterpret their relationship. Secretly even I believe that they knew they meant more to each other than they tried to portray. The girl was unsure of the whole commitment and knew she trusted the guy more than anyone else and trusted him to be there for her no matter what. The guy was ready to anything for the girl and even go against the world if he had to. Eventually the girl got over her insecurities and didn’t mind committing her relationship and I think that strengthened their bond too. So may be if taken in the right direction relationships that are more than friendship but less than a committed relationship can still work and bloom out in a great committed relationship. On the other hand it can also end peacefully without any burdens of broken promises and stuff because the relationship just did not work out.
Yes, if taken a lot of time to get over your inhibitions this can scar your friendships too if one of the two want some thing more out of the relationship. This is actually a complicated situation which is growing in more and more individuals’ lives, in my opinion.
Half Girlfriend is a movie that expresses this type of a relationship.
This is a post where I am sharing a Half relationship story at BlogAdda in association with #HalfGirlfriend
I think I have mentioned this before about how I am living in a flat with roommates now since I have moved to Pune for my internship.
Let me tell you this… if you don’t get the right roommates your life can become hell because of these people.
I never wanted to share my room with anyone. Flat sharing is cool in a two bedroom flat. But 4 people living in 2 rooms was never something that I wanted to do. But as fate had it, I got a room with 3 girls staying and a vacancy for one. The girls seemed good and my father liked the place so well, I decided to go with it.
The girl I shared my room with was also great, but she left the house in about 5 days of me shifting in.
I don’t know where my brain had gone at that time and though there was a chance on me taking the whole room for myself, I didn’t do anything.
In January, I got a roommate.
This girl was exactly opposite to all that I am. She sleeps at 9 pm (fine by me, since I get more solo time with quietness in my room.), cooks are own food, is way older than me and thinks she is extremely smart cuz she earns the most among all the girls in the house. Everything okay with me because who is she to me? What do I care about since I am not going stay here after my internship ends. I was happy in ignoring her as long as I can.
But today she comes up to me when I am taking a bath and bangs on my door cuz she wants to put her own bucket of water to heat on the electric rod. How is some one who is taking a bath supposed to give her a bucket? On top of that, every morning I am the one who puts her bucket to heat myself. Is this my responsibility? I don’t think so since she doesn’t even wake up when I do. I am the first one to get up everyday. On top of that, when I came out she starts shouting on me that I disturb her sleep by staying up and working or reading or by talking on the phone. I will never apologize to some one by reading. Talking on the phone when the other person is awake and when I am paying for the room too I don’t think I am supposed to act only to please the others. Telling me to adjust can go two ways.
With all this ranting I would like to conclude saying, living with strangers is a real pain if you don’t get the type who understand you. It is difficult to please them all.
What are your experiences?
By Nicola Yoon.
Natasha: I’m a girl who believes in science and facts. Not fate. Not destiny. Or dreams that will never come true. I’m definitely not the kind of girl who meets a cute boy on a crowded New York City street and falls in love with him. Not when my family is twelve hours away from being deported to Jamaica. Falling in love with him won’t be my story.
Daniel: I’ve always been the good son, the good student, living up to my parents’ high expectations. Never the poet. Or the dreamer. But when I see her, I forget about all that. Something about Natasha makes me think that fate has something much more extraordinary in store—for both of us.
The Universe: Every moment in our lives has brought us to this single moment. A million futures lie before us. Which one will come true?
This book amazed me.
I loved Nicola Yoon’s Everything Evrything but I loved The Sun is Also A Star more.
A simple story about two different types of immigrants in US.
The book brings out the harsh reality of not just how the undocumented immigrants face problems there but also about how decisions of one person can have unimaginable effects on people around them.
I loved the cynical, science loving, non-believer in love character of Natasha and how Daniel strives in the entire book to make her a believer.
I just had one problem. I couldn’t believe the whole book happens in a single day! They do too many things to logically think it would fit in the said timeline!
Detailed Review soon…. for now -> DO GIVE IT A TRY!
Ah, 2016 flew past I feel. Constant work and something or the other exciting happening, 2016 was a fun year for me!
I would like to review all the good and somewhat bad stuff that happened this year, but it might be a long long post!
So how 2016 fared?
- It started with me participating in IT Olympiad 2016 competition and reaching up to the finals and eventually becoming the runner up and winning a cash prize of Rs. 75000/-.
- The start of 2016 also made me an aunt for the first time (yay).
- I applied for JP Morgan’s Code for Good contest somewhere in March and in mid – May I cracked the telephone interview for the contest.
- I spend my 23rd birthday on 23rd July and the day following it in JP Morgan’s office for this contest and we developed an Android app for a NGO too.
- Two weeks later I got a call for interview and on Aug 10, 2016 I got selected for the full-time Technology Analyst Program at JP Morgan. I was the first one in my class to be placed!
- The same day when I got selected for JPMC I also gave the aptitude test for the 6 months internship program at Dell EMC and on the next day, despite my initial reluctance about working for a company outside Mumbai, I got selected post the aptitude for the interview rounds.
- After a rigorous 5 interviews, they selected me as their only college student intern, not only from my college, but as I recently got to know, from the whole city of Mumbai. I dunno if I am really that smart as this looks 😛
- In the mean time, my sister also scored 97% in her SSC board exams and got into the college of her choice, which was a proud moment for the family.
- We even celebrated her achievement by finally visiting Barbeque Nation, one of the costly BBQ joints we have in the city.
AT Barbeque Nation with family
- I was a part of the placement committee so it was fun to interact with companies and even though there were many terrible moments in the process the result always made us smile over the efforts we put. About 48 out of 50 students from my class managed to get a good internship placement.
- The 4th semester of college which ended in April was one of the toughest ones ever for me and the vacation after it was the last ever vacation I had in a relaxed way. I regret not sleeping enough at that point when I had the chance.
- The 5th semester however flew by so fast that I think before we knew it, it was already over. With placement activities along with the course work there hardly was any time to relax and when it did end, it felt me feeling a bit empty knowing that college life had ended!
Class of MCA (2014 – 2017)
- Time after Diwali was the most hurried one cuz we had our finals, after which i started packing for shifting to Pune. Since my internship started on 19th of Dec, I had about 15 days from when the internship ended to the time to move.
- Shifting was one of the biggest highlight of the year and it happened right towards the end. Finding a new place, moving in with unknown people, managing your office life and getting along with roommates was all new for me. I am a very reclusive person at home, I don’t talk much, remain in my room and prefer being left alone. Now I have to share my room with someone, cook my own food (I have found a tiffin service for it right now :P), wash my clothes (or bring them to Mumbai every weekend so that I can wash it in the washing machine), and most importantly, wake up on my own.
- Office life wasn’t a very daunting experience because I joined the office on 19th, after shifting to Pune on 18th (yeah, just a day prior), and after get inducted and finishing with the initial introductions, I was immediately told that my whole business unit was going on a day picnic to a place called Della Adventure Park in Lonavala in just two days. That proved to be the biggest ice breaker. I got properly introduced to everyone, mingled with them, did crazy stuff like Zip Line and Paintball, etc with them, even sang songs on the bus (which I am extremely conscious about).
Della Adventure Park
- I participated and won my two favourite events from my college’s fest Technovanza, which were called Technohunt and Code Swap, both in first place!
- I did not complete my GoodReads challenge this year 🙁 Though I read some amazing books I managed to read just 45 books out of 52 🙁
What are my near future plans for 2017?
- Perfect my web development skills because I am a front end developer intern!
- Read 50 books this year.
- Choose wisely between my two placement companies and two beloved cities.
- Buy a bike.
- Buy a new phone on my own.
- Save at least Rs. 50000.
- Lose at least 5 kg over the year and start hitting the gym as frequently as possible.
How was you 2016 and what do you see yourself doing in 2017?
So, today (since it’s already past 12 here), in about 8 hours, I’ll be leaving for Pune, where I’ll be staying for the next 6 months for my internship.
I have such mixed feeling tonight. I just finished messaging my friends from college a goodbye and then sat back to think what this actually meant. It’s been roughly 2 and a half years since I got the notification of being accepted into VJTI for MCA at 1:30 am after waiting for the results all day. Though going into this college and for this course meant getting a decent job, I still don’t believe that tomorrow I will actually be starting with my first official job.
These two and a half years have changed me a lot. I have become more confident about decision making, done a lot of different activities that helped learning how the industry works so I hope actually working in a company won’t be a huge challenge and I wish to enjoy it as much as I can. My friends have also changed me, and still keep guiding me, showing me where I’m going wrong and are always there for me.
I’m the first person from my class to starts with the internship on 19th Dec and the first one shifting for it too so it’s sorta a big deal. What is a bigger deal for me is how soon time files. I barely got a 15 days vacation and most of the time went in shopping and getting all the stuff needed to move together. I’m still not completely done with the packing and it seems like an endless cycle and I’m pretty sure despite it all I’m going to forget something here. Luckily enough, Mumbai is about 3 hours away from Pune. So I am planning on returning here on weekends if possible.
I’m still pretty sad to leave my family and go to another place. Though I like cooking I’m not much of a quick cook who can make her meals in minutes. I am very lazy in that matter and I depend a lot on my mom for my food. Now I’ll have to cook for myself. I have to wash my clothes without a washing machine… again a first! And I don;t even know my roommates so well as of now. I’m not used to even sharing my room with anyone and I’m quite a loner person at home. I prefer to be left alone, with my books, PC and work, with no one to badger around me. So it all looks like one big adventure right now.
All in all, I hope this shifting helps me in growing a lot more as a person, to enjoy my work life and help me in becoming independent. Stay tuned for my Pune stories now. 😀
Hey guys, I have decided to participate in Hailey’s Bookmas 2016. I’m one day late so I have made no book tree which was what was the topic for day one, but I will start from day 2. So it’s like a year in review specifically for books.
Day 2 : Top 2 YA Debuts of 2016.
So, Goodreads has about 260 books which were debuts this year. I don’t think I read many debuts as such so I’m listing the books I read as well as wanted to read.
1. Bookishly Ever After by Isabel Bandeira
A book about a bookworm, who loves knitting as well, falling in love with a non reader slowly, was one of my favourite reads this year. It’s one of the few really good books with no mental stress or heavy emotions. I read this one pretty early in the year and I even had the chance to interview the author, Isabel Bandeira for Dramatic Soul, and you can check the interview here. Yay!
2. The Star – Touched Queen by Roshni Chokshi.
A book by an Indian author, based on Indian mythology (I love Indian Mythology). So I really do want to read this book soon! Um, no I haven’t read this one. I have started it just today morning and so far I have liked it enough to add it to the top 2 debuts for me 😀
So that’s my tiny post for the Day 2 of Bookmas. Stay tuned for more such Bookmas related posts!